The Other Man in My Life

Everyone who reads my blog (all 2 of you, I'm sure) is probably wondering why I have been blogging everyday this week.  Well, I'm bored at work.  You can get a LOT of blogging done when you have absolutely nothing else to do for 8 hours.


So, I feel like it is time to introduce the blogging world to the other man in my life.

Meet Wes.

He is one of the biggest blessings that my son and I have received in the last 2 1/2 years.  God brought someone so special into our lives and so unexpectedly.  I thought I would share our story.

As I have written about before in my blog, in June of 2008 my marriage ended suddenly and without warning.  It was the most difficult time of my life.  Dealing with the emotions of loss and fear (and with a 9 month-old at the time) took a very long time.  I put up a lot of walls emotionally in order to protect the new life that God helped me build for Brian and me.  I never wanted to deal with the kind of pain that took me so long to overcome.  After the longest divorce ever (a year was long to me anyway when you are trying to heal) I actually felt a contentment that I hadn't had before.  God had provided me with a wonderful job that allowed me to maximize my time with my son since going from stay-at-home-mom to full-time working mom was a very hard transition to make.  He had also given me the greatest family who offered me their unconditional love and help along the way, as well as some amazing friends.  I felt blessed and happy after everything that had happened.

Then came the idea of dating.  I was never a big fan of dating in my younger years.  It was just a time of being super nervous and not really being yourself around someone you didn't really know that well.  And the thought of ever doing it again wasn't appealing to me.  Especially since I was now 28 and had a baby.  But people seem to think that "getting back out there and meeting people" helps.  And friends sometimes want to set you up too.  So I did that a little bit.  But deep down still felt like I was better on my own.  I was soooooo picky. And most importantly, I had a son that deserved the very best.

Then came Wes.  Wes and I went to jr. high and high school together but never had a single conversation.  Never had a class together.  Didn't even have any mutual friends.  But you know how facebook is.  You are friends with people on there simply because you graduated with them.  Which is how we were.  One day, while updating my status, I notice that Wes had posted something about Phil Collins music being his guilty pleasure.  I am a HUGE HUGE HUGE Phil Collins fan, so of course I had to comment about it!  And a few days later, Wes is kind enough to post on my wall that David Cook (the love of my life) is going to be on tv.  I probably should have fallen in love with him on the spot for that one since every other male I know makes fun of my for loving David.  But that's another story.  Anyway, the next day I get a message from Wes asking me to dinner.  And I.did.not.want.to.go.  Period.  I really wasn't interested in dating anymore after having such bad luck in the game thus far.  But after some convincing from my mom and one of my very best friends Becky, I decided that I'd go.  I mean, it was just dinner.

That dinner turned out to be the single best date of my life.  It was so comfortable, so easy to talk to each other.  We shared struggles that God had helped us through and shared what He was doing in our lives.  That was February 13th.  Our date only lasted 2 hours, but we have been a part of each other's lives ever since.

It didn't take long for God to show both of us that we were going to spend our lives together.  As many fears and issues as I had from the past, those just seemed to melt away the more we got to know each other.  We share so many goals in life and God has given us so many similar visions and desires.  And the best part?  He loves my son with a passion.  And Brian loves him just as much.  He supports me, encourages me, loves me despite my flaws.  He makes me feel beautiful and special and treats me like God intended.   And he makes me laugh harder than anyone ever has.  He is hilarious.  We genuinely love and respect each other and that was a new concept for both of us.

I asked Wes later on in our relationship what made him send me that message asking me to dinner when we didn't know each other at all really.  He said he just really felt like it was something he needed to do.  But deep down I think we both know that it was really God :)

I really didn't know if God would bring me someone.  I thought maybe it would just be me and Brian.  And I was okay with that, but deep down I wanted a family so much.  God wanted that for me too because He is going to bless me with such a beautiful one with Wes and Brian someday.